Managing Your Move to or in Killeen: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the grown-up equal of high school—everybody is really excited about the prospect, but it's only the folks with pragmatic expectations who end up having a good time. Sure, it's a new house, a new beginning, and the possibility of a fabulous new life--but once that last empty truck heads down the road and you're standing there in the middle of your boxes, you've still got to do the real work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is the key to beginning that new life on a positive note--and that equates to not only coming to terms with the fact that a new abode will not wondrously melt off the thirty pounds you have good intentions to lose, but that moving is emotionally exhausting even in ideal circumstances and you and your family should appropriate the time and space to accept that. One of the odd things about a local move--new house, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be tougher on the kids than a long-distance relocation. A new home across the country removes the never-ending requests to go visit their friends in the old neighborhood, and it may be less difficult to embrace a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But let’s get back to the main point. There are three Ps to think about when managing your move to or in Killeen--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you do not purge will need to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you'll pay. Expectation—I'll go through old stuff and only hang on to what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you realize you do. No matter if you take care of your own packing or appoint a professional moving company, you have got to decide what is worth the time and money to take with you. Purge Purging is one of those odd words you don't hear very often, at least in a affirmative implication. But really, letting go of the old baggage is one of the wisest ways that you can allow your new abode to meet your expectations of grandeur. There are all kinds of directions and tips to assist you in figuring out the best ways to sort through your old stuff, from pragmatic--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a tad wacky--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its simplest level, purging is simply going through all the cupboards, closets and drawers and forming three piles: keep, toss, donate. Or you might have four piles if you have got some next-to-new items that you don't use anymore, and consign those items. A difficult thing about purging is keeping up the detachment it requires to be ruthless about tossing things. If you kept all those pre-school paintings, how can you throw them away and be a great parent? Here's how—have a friend help you pick through things and talk you through why you are saving items that are really better thrown away. Having a friend ask you out loud why you want to save the 1980s Walkman does put things in focus and you will have a less difficult time growing the get-rid-of pile if you've got someone to reinforce your decisions. If your significant other is the one with the pack rat impulses, here is a tip for assisting an unwilling participant part with their treasures. Think small, and start with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and broken screwdrivers to one time only and progressively build to more important things, like collections (for example, pick out two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch up us next time as we go over managing your move topics: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.